| So, if you have an orgasmic wife, you’ll be happy for the rest of your life. She’ll want to make love more because it’s fun, loving warm and intimate. The more you give, the more you’ll get and in the long run, you’ll learn that giving and receiving are one and the same. Mike, a warm and gentle Cancerian, was a sensitive lover who learned long ago that the road to his greatest passion was by satisfying the Goddess first. When he honored his ladies orally, he observed that they seemed to ride waves when they orgasmed, which increased gradually in size until he thought they could bear no more. Then, he’d continue. As he held tight, it felt as if his lovers broke through another level of waves that were even higher than the first. On top of many levels, they seemed to have a wide variety of orgasms. When he would finally have intercourse with them and experience his own orgasm, he noticed his orgasm was only one type, one level. He knew he could experience those waves and a multitude of orgasms types too, but wondered how. If only he had heard about tantric sex. Hesitate to Ejaculate What Mike and others like him don’t realize is that they too can ride high orgasm waves if they master ejaculatory control. In orgasmic functioning, men and women are polar opposites. The more a woman orgasms, the more she can orgasm and the higher she can go. The more a man holds back his ejaculate (typical Western orgasm), the more he learns how to orgasm, the more orgasms he can have and the higher he goes. Eventually, both men and women experience full-body, extended and kundalini orgasms complete with kreas (rushes of energy that make the body jerk, feel good and look like small epileptic seizures). In the buildup to a man’s ejaculation, his autonomic nervous system is dominated by its sympathetic branch. The sympathetic part of the autonomic nervous system releases the chemicals sympathin and adrenelin leading to peripheral vasodialation and visceral vasoconstriction. In other words, when a man is making love, the blood leaves his guts and moves into his face, extremities and penis giving him the energy. The peripheral neurons fire continuously and metabolites (waste products of neural burning) accumulate at the myroneural junctions (where nerves and muscles come together).
When he ejaculates, he goes into a phase of autonomic nervous system functioning known as parasympathetic overcompensation wherein the parasympathetic part of his central nervous system releases the chemical acetecholine which causes peripheral vasoconstriction and viseral vasodialation. The acetecholine cleanses the metabolites that accumulated in the muscle-nerve junctions in the excitation phase of lovemaking. In other words, the blood leaves his head, arms, legs and penis and goes to his guts to help him recuperate because he’s just run the equivalent of a small marathon and he feels sleepy. This signal to retreat, regenerate and relax is For many couples the answer is ejaculatory control. When a man learns to ejaculate from choice rather than automatically, he moves his lovemaking to the highest levels of ecstasy possible for himself and his lover. If he masters the ability to hold his ejaculate and direct his sexual energy up his spine and out his crown into his beloved, he not only increases pleasure to unimaginable levels for both of them, he’ll eventually achieve full-body, kundalini and extended orgasms. By staying connected longer, he’ll reach new levels of love and intimacy with his sweetheart. Ways to Help The Man Delay Ejaculation There are many ways to master your ejaculate to gain control over the decision to squirt or not to squirt, some which you can do alone to condition your body and some you practice with your mate to condition your relationship. In the Taoist sex tradition, men have orgasms without ejaculation and injaculates instead. They believe that by pressing an acupuncture point located halfway between the anus and scrotum (the Jen-Mo Point or Million Dollar Spot), that ejaculation can be reversed and the semen recycled from the prostate reabsorbed into the blood creating a better orgasm. The semen contains a great deal of the Vital Life Force and ejaculation represents a loss of vital energy, hormones and nutriends and early death. Cessation of ejaculation and menstruation is the avenue to perpetual life The Million Dollar Spot So, one of the most common and simplest ways to stop ejaculation is to reach underneath the scrotum and press the "million dollar spot", where the seminal vessels empty into the scrotum and stop the flow of semen by pressing on the base of those tubes. However, this is not the most advisable method as you are stopping the rush of energy (which is normally flowing downward) in an unnatural way and could cause small blood vessels to burst. It’s best to master control of your body and stop your ejaculation through managing your breath and pulling energy up and recycling the energy.
Yoga Internal yogic holds (bandhas) are the key to ejaculatory control for many. Review the detailed description for bahdhas outlined in chapter 6. Master the three holds; throat hold, belly hold and pelvis hold and send energy out your crown into your beloved. Learning how to control your own body and not using external pressure points is a far healthier practice. Recognize your body’s internal cues. If you reach that point where you feel it is inevitable that you will ejaculate, stop moving, pull the energy up and out your crown chakra and practice the yogic breathing. To begin mastering your ejaculation, follow this simple procedure. Self stimulate or have your partner stimulate your penis raising the energy as you get excited. Use a numbering scale of 1-10 to measure your level of arousal. Ten is over the top and you have ejaculated. Nine is the point of ejaculatory inevitability, where you feel your seminal vessel about to empty and you’re close to coming. When you reach an 8, stop stimulating your penis, empty out all the air from your lungs, suck up your belly, imagine sending energy from your base chakra up through all the chakras in your spine and out the top of the crown into your beloved, and pulse your PC muscles. Pause a few minutes till you regain control and begin the cycle again. Desensitize the Penis If you are having difficulties and ejaculate prematurely, you may want to consider densentizing your penis. While it may seem odd at first to purposely reduce sensations and pleasure, in the long run if you are able to hold back ejaculating, you’ll be able to experience more powerful orgasms than you had before. Eventually you’ll be able to completely control your ejaculations and turn them into injaculations. Numbing the nerve endings in the head of the penis allows couples to make love longer and achieve greater satisfaction for both. Sexual glands and organs become stronger. You feel more vital and biologically youthful. As you strengthen your member, you’ll be able to come more and more just like a teenager, but may want to hold back until you both chose that you’ll ejaculate, so you’ll both have more fun and pleasure. Practice Mastering Ejaculatory Control To being mastering your ejaculation, follow this simple procedure. Self stimulate or have your lover stimulate your penis raising the energy as you get excited. Use a numbering system of 1-10 to measure your level of arousal. Ten is over the top and you have ejaculated. Nine is the point of ejaculatory inevitability, where you feel your seminal vessel about to empty and you're close to coming. When you reach eight, stop stimulating your penis, empty out all the air from your lungs, suck up your belly, imagine sending energy from your base chakra up through all the chakras in your spine and out the top of the crown into your beloved, and puse your PC muscles. Pause a few minutes till you regain control and begin the cycle again. You may want to practice the bahdhas described in the yoga section on the previous page. PC Muscle Exercises Beneficial for both men and women, PC muscle exercises are fun and easy to do. The PC muscle, the major muscle that contracts during orgasms, when strengthened increases sensations of pleasure and extends orgasmic response, increasing enjoyment for you and your lover. Try stopping the flow of urine in mid stream. When you stop at a traffic light when driving, pulse your PC muscle until the light changes. Incorporate PC muscle exercises into some routine part of your life so you'll remember to do it. It's a good health practice, fun, and no one will know what you're doing. Counseling and Therapy Many times there are deep psychological and emotional issues surrounding premature ejaculation. If the methods suggested here don't seem to help, you may want to consider psychotherapy with a professional counselor to help you uncover and reprogram trauma that is preventing you from your total bliss.
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